Officially, spring is still a few months away. Wedding Season, however, is just around the corner. And for those with impending nuptials in the offing, an obvious question is no doubt at the top of mind: When the big day comes, should you go with a gentle peck, or a passionate smooch? There may not be a right or wrong answer, but there certainly are varied opinions when it comes to the ceremonial locking of lips. Here, two married men offer their thoughts on the matter via our Groomshop.
You wouldn’t celebrate a Super Bowl touchdown with a sensible handshake. You wouldn’t greet a winning lotto ticket with a genteel nod. Why would you cap off the most important day of your life with nothing more than a friendly little peck? You married ‘em, for crying out loud. Forget “for better or worse”—they’re the ones who’ll be sharing everything with you, from in-laws and diaper duty to mortgage payments and denture bills. You wouldn’t buy a car or a house that you were contractually obliged to keep for the rest of your life, no matter how badly it aged or got hooked on Hot Pockets. But this person is doing exactly that with you. So instead of leaving them wondering, make sure you let them know how much it means to you. When you say that “I Do,” pucker up and give them everything you got. Love, fire, emotion, and yes, passion. PASSION! Kiss them like you mean it. Marriage lasts a long time, at least in theory. And there will be plenty of time for friendly pecks—and denture bills, for that matter—in the many, many, many years ahead.
Your wedding day should be a celebration of love—not the slobbering lust of a middle school dance. Of course, the Big Kiss should be special. It should be with feeling. Nobody is advocating for robotic affection here. But when it comes time to make it official, keep the PDA in check and act like you've been there before. Wait, scratch that second point – but you get the idea. Think of the guests. There will be grandparents present. Aunts, uncles. Your neighbors will probably bring their annoying kid who smells like fish and practices karate in the driveway. These people don’t need to watch you consummate the marriage. Keep it under control and authentic. After all, there will be plenty of time for the passionate moments—just save them for when all the chaperones have left the dance.
Illustrations by Heather Gatley